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i am in the midst of a huge life change. learning what grace says about me. letting God's love speak and embrace me. when i fall down, He's there with me. i am a daughter. i am a wonderful treasure.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Communication

number 3 of my strengths from strengthfinder 2.0

communication - people who are especially talented in the communication theme generally find it easy to put their thoughts into words. they are good conversationalists and presenters
what makes you stand out? - it's very likely that you may have little difficulty finding the right words to express your ideas on specific topics. perhaps you are comfortable talking about ways to make certain people or things better. chances are good that you may be a good talker. in certain situations, you might think of better ways to pose questions, change topics, launch serious discussions, engage in small talk, tell jokes, or describe experiences. driven by your talents, you might admit that you participate in friendly rivalries for fun. usually you are comfortable letting people know what you do and do not value. by nature, you might be able to tell people how certain things function. maybe you describe the basics rather than risk losing your audience in lots of detail. you might share some real-life examples or stories to illustrate key points. perhaps you have little difficulty expressing your ideas. instinctively, you might be able to keep a discussion or small talk moving when you are talking with someone you know on a personal level.

Friday, October 30, 2009

Adaptability

number two in the strengthfinder 2.0 test:
adaptability
people who are especially talented in the adaptability theme prefer to "go with the flow." they tend to be "now" people who take things as they come and discover the future one day at a time.
what makes you stand out? - instinctively, you may trust you can deal with whatever happens. perhaps you rely on your core values to sustain you in the face of uncertainty. the principles by which you live might permit you to accept life's unexpected and unpredictable occurrences. by nature, you may feel best about life when you take time to envision how you might react to future situations. to some degree, forethought helps you adjust to unexpected problems. it sometimes prepares you to take advantage of new opportunities. chances are good that you might say it is easy to be happy and upbeat about life. why? perhaps you deal with situations as they arise. some people may appreciate your willingness to alter the original plan to accommodate their unique needs or last-minute requests. driven by your talents, you occasionally rely on your intuition to make the right decisions as events unfold. it's very likely that you occasionally wait for situations or problems to arise, rather than plan in advance. if something or someone unexpectedly blocks your progress, you might easily find ways to adjust. perhaps sudden changes force you to consider upgrades or tactics you had not thought of earlier.
this makes it sound so good to be adaptable. i tend to see most of these 'strengths' as weaknesses. i would love to know how to revamp myself into the person the strengthfinder 2.0 says i am, yet i feel that too many people i work with see me as they see me and will not change their opinion. it may be an uphill battle. i must do what God leads me to do and He doesn't really care what others say about me, maybe i need to practice that more. my top five strengths make me feel like such a people pleaser. help me use these strengths as You see fit.

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Empathy

we took a test at work to locate our personal strengths and find how we fit together in our team - that was what we were told. it was interesting, i always enjoy learning about myself. keep thinking there is something wrong and bad about me so i search. then i find all these wonderful things.

here is the first of five strengths according to strengthfinder 2.0.

empathy - people who are especially talented in the empathy theme can sense the feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others' lives or others' situations. what makes me stand out: driven by your talents, you may be enthusiastic about life when individuals trust you enough to share some of their personal thoughts and feelings. chances are good that you long to be befriended by everyone you meet (wow that one can hurt). your intuition helps you distinguish between those who do and do not enjoy your company (and yet i struggle to get them to like me anyway...). typically you figure out who is simply going through the motions of being nice (robert wasn't even going through the motions and it still took me forever to let him go). you can also determine who holds you in high regard (yea i feel quite shaky about that one too - 'specially with robert's actions.). you probably avoid people who hurt your feelings. you choose to spend more time with those who genuinely like you. instinctively, you are aware of people's feelings. this explains why you can let tears stream down your face when you are in the presence of individuals who are suffering or experiencing joy. you have a gift for feeling the depths of another's pain or jubilation. it's very likely that you are filled with awe by beauty in the world, in people, and in the cosmos. whether you gaze upon nature's wonders or marvel at the work of human hands, you are filled with wonder. you can suddenly stop what you are doing to watch a sunset, listen to the rustle of leaves, stand before a work of art, hear a piece of music, look through a telescope, or hold a newborn child (i love this :).). you experience beauty at a level many people cannot imagine (tho i try to introduce them to this beauty around them). once the moment has passed, you can still picture the scene or hear the sound in your memory (i love being able to do this - keeps it alive). because of your strengths, you bring a keen awareness about human behavior to the classroom, laboratory, seminar, playing field, or tutoring session. you spontaneously tune in to what individuals are thinking and feeling minute by minute. these insights are likely to make you a better educator.

hmmmm all that in the title of empathy - i like

A Look Inside - Who Knew?

wow this week has been hard.

i made it through april 2nd. but it caught up with me and sunday was real hard.

i have been reading a book based on the story of hosea and gomer called redeeming love (francine rivers). (the story of hosea and gomer can be found in the bible in the book of hosea.) the book has a beautiful and heart sickening story. when i read the account in redeeming love i began to FEEL.
i read the descriptions of the woman's feelings and felt what she was feeling. when she is trying to scrub herself clean i burst into tears - all sorts of emotions and beliefs i thought i dealt with long ago, things i had no idea were there, the deepest longings and desires of my heart.
sunday morning i spent the entire worship service with sobs racking my body. the longing to be clean. the desire to be wanted and hope i can have a beautiful future.
sure it is easy to know in my head how to behave and believe but so hard when the heart is tearing apart and broken.
i finished the novel last night. i continue seeking God, my hope and my light in this dark and tragic place. the Lover of my soul wants me to understand His love and perfect will for my life so i ask Him to help me get there. i had no idea life would be so hard and unfair.
i refuse to stuff anymore. there is no where i can go to get away from this pain and heartache.

God provides the laughter and hope through my tears. He takes me in His strong, safe arms and comforts my bleeding heart. He listens to my cries and pain, He has saved each tear - none have fallen that He did not collect. He is intimately aware of me.
how i long for this season to be complete, to see the healing and the final scene, yet i must wait until it is finished. there is so much to do.

maybe this sounds like rambling, my thoughts are often confused with the stress and lack of care i have for myself. there is so much going on right now, in me, around me, through me. still, i know God is at work.
strange. He is at work everywhere and yet also completely with me all throughout the days and nights. i have never experienced anyone so aware of me before, it is wonderful and scary all at once.
i am finding that i am part of other's lives. He is doing that, somehow He thinks i am wonderful and wants others to know me. how did that happen? how did i become wanted? by Him or others?
He is inviting me to be part of something. i did not think i could be anything (the ache is great) - that unclean place again. i did not realize i felt so dirty and impossibly unclean. i experienced so many judgments passed by people who did not know me or want to know me. there were many situations where there was no acceptance. have we not all experienced this??
even so many judgments i passed on others myself. cruel how we deal with our hurt.

somewhere here i am coming to the conclusion that we are all the same - we hurt and bleed, we cover it up and destroy ourselves and others, we cannot do this thing called life by ourselves. we need a Savior. we need a love that goes into us and does not leave us feeling destroyed or raped. we need acceptance right where we are. we just want to be liked for who we are - whenever we discover who we are, really.

American Capitalism Gone Without A Whimper

American capitalism gone with a whimper
27.04.2009 Source: Pravda.Ru URL: http://english.pravda.ru/opinion/columnists/107459-american_capitalism-0

It must be said, that like the breaking of a great dam, the American decent into Marxism is happening with breath taking speed, against the back drop of a passive, hapless sheeple, excuse me dear reader, I meant people.

True, the situation has been well prepared on and off for the past century, especially the past twenty years. The initial testing grounds was conducted upon our Holy Russia and a bloody test it was. But we Russians would not just roll over and give up our freedoms and our souls, no matter how much money Wall Street poured into the fists of the Marxists.

Those lessons were taken and used to properly prepare the American populace for the surrender of their freedoms and souls, to the whims of their elites and betters.

First, the population was dumbed down through a politicized and substandard education system based on pop culture, rather then the classics. Americans know more about their favorite TV dramas then the drama in DC that directly affects their lives. They care more for their "right" to choke down a McDonalds burger or a BurgerKing burger than for their constitutional rights. Then they turn around and lecture us about our rights and about our "democracy". Pride blind the foolish.

Then their faith in God was destroyed, until their churches, all tens of thousands of different "branches and denominations" were for the most part little more then Sunday circuses and their televangelists and top protestant mega preachers were more then happy to sell out their souls and flocks to be on the "winning" side of one pseudo Marxist politician or another. Their flocks may complain, but when explained that they would be on the "winning" side, their flocks were ever so quick to reject Christ in hopes for earthly power. Even our Holy Orthodox churches are scandalously liberalized in America.

The final collapse has come with the election of Barack Obama. His speed in the past three months has been truly impressive. His spending and money printing has been a record setting, not just in America's short history but in the world. If this keeps up for more then another year, and there is no sign that it will not, America at best will resemble the Wiemar Republic and at worst Zimbabwe.

These past two weeks have been the most breath taking of all. First came the announcement of a planned redesign of the American Byzantine tax system, by the very thieves who used it to bankroll their thefts, loses and swindles of hundreds of billions of dollars. These make our Russian oligarchs look little more then ordinary street thugs, in comparison. Yes, the Americans have beat our own thieves in the shear volumes. Should we congratulate them?

These men, of course, are not an elected panel but made up of appointees picked from the very financial oligarchs and their henchmen who are now gorging themselves on trillions of American dollars, in one bailout after another. They are also usurping the rights, duties and powers of the American congress (parliament). Again, congress has put up little more then a whimper to their masters.

Then came Barack Obama's command that GM's (General Motor) president step down from leadership of his company. That is correct, dear reader, in the land of "pure" free markets, the American president now has the power, the self given power, to fire CEOs and we can assume other employees of private companies, at will. Come hither, go dither, the centurion commands his minions.

So it should be no surprise, that the American president has followed this up with a "bold" move of declaring that he and another group of unelected, chosen stooges will now redesign the entire automotive industry and will even be the guarantee of automobile policies. I am sure that if given the chance, they would happily try and redesign it for the whole of the world, too. Prime Minister Putin, less then two months ago, warned Obama and UK's Blair, not to follow the path to Marxism, it only leads to disaster. Apparently, even though we suffered 70 years of this Western sponsored horror show, we know nothing, as foolish, drunken Russians, so let our "wise" Anglo-Saxon fools find out the folly of their own pride.

Again, the American public has taken this with barely a whimper...but a "freeman" whimper.

So, should it be any surprise to discover that the Democratically controlled Congress of America is working on passing a new regulation that would give the American Treasury department the power to set "fair" maximum salaries, evaluate performance and control how private companies give out pay raises and bonuses? Senator Barney Franks, a social pervert basking in his homosexuality (of course, amongst the modern, enlightened American societal norm, as well as that of the general West, homosexuality is not only not a looked down upon life choice, but is often praised as a virtue) and his Marxist enlightenment, has led this effort. He stresses that this only affects companies that receive government monies, but it is retroactive and taken to a logical extreme, this would include any company or industry that has ever received a tax break or incentive.

The Russian owners of American companies and industries should look thoughtfully at this and the option of closing their facilities down and fleeing the land of the Red as fast as possible. In other words, divest while there is still value left.

The proud American will go down into his slavery with out a fight, beating his chest and proclaiming to the world, how free he really is. The world will only snicker.

Stanislav Mishin

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Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Help Me

i am surprised - tho most likely should not be so - how quickly hurt comes as i look through photos and lives of other people. too often i see smiling faces, children, photo comments - all these leading me to believe there is a happy life out there.

and i am jealous. i so desire life to work. relationships that are good for one another. children.

God is good. His desire is for me to have life that has meaning. each relationship to be good for all involved. He too desires that i have children around. He alone can grant these desires and give me what i will require for each moment of them.

Papa, help me. forgive me, i doubt Your good intentions all too often. i release You from my idea of timing and what is best for myself. heal what has become from my expectations. clear out the disappointments and failures. turn around all that was meant to destroy me, bring me to life.

this pain of not having what i so desire at this stage of my life. redeem the time, Abba. take me beyond what i have known - beyond my experiences. love me through this place. heal my heart and help me love those who have been used against me.

aggghhhh i hate this feeling stuff. i feel like i am tearing apart inside. smiling when i want to cry, crying when i want to be numb. choosing to numb out and run from You when running to You will bring my heart to peace and calm my fear for the present and future.

somehow help me focus on the glorious future You have in store.

Friday, October 9, 2009

Been Forever

k i admit it has been forever since i last picked up my keyboard and started pecking at it. tho i will blame life happenings and sitting at a computer doing computer things day in and day out. really it got off my priority list.

here is a shock for those that don't already know... (if anyone is still reading this blog..)
robert and i are getting divorced. long story that happened faster than i thought it could . i feel it was a bad decision on robert's part, but only because God has majorly worked in my heart and mind. i sure miss having him around, i always missed having him around. never got to be the friend thing, probably what hampered much of our life together. well and many things i simply will not know about - possibly ever.

God will take everything meant for evil and turn it around. i never thought that i would have a divorce - totally against all i wanted and hoped for. yet God brought me to the place where i have found identity, hope, future, and my personal relationship with Jesus more intimate than i could have believed. i wish robert was here in this journey with me o how i wish that were the case, it is not so at this time so i will continue on with Him - the One that is in love with me and wants my love in return. i can not love with out Him. i love robert because of Him and trust that He will draw my husband into His amazing - ness. i am very sad at this relationship falling through, yet i know that God is amazing and has a wonderful plan for us both. so if there is a future for us or not, i don't need to worry. just let Him heal the disappointment and lead me into the future. and i will let go.....

moving on a bit:

recently i have found that oklahoma is 4th in child trafficking. that is in putting children into the sex industry. blew me out of the water. within the 'bible belt' we are #4.

after chatting with a co-worker it hit me that all this healing God has been doing in my life can be channeled into working with child recovery. i delight in coloring and playing on the floor with children - play therapy. children want to trust, by putting God into my interaction i will have the grace and mercy to deal with personal rejection from a child that simply cannot accept or know love at that moment. God has this amazing way of dealing with us when we are hurting or angry and He so wants to put His arms around us but we won't let Him. He is the perfect instructor for this journey.

so i am going to the conference in tulsa to begin learning what it will take to be involved in rescuing children. info on the conference here. not a quick journey, yet looking back over the past three years with this divorce i am amazed at how God redeems time, and i will get to experience the unimaginable. He is so good.

on a corresponding vein - i am starting school. wow - never thought this would come.

i begin classes at oklahoma wesleyan university in a few weeks - maybe sooner not sure yet. and it has been amazing at how quickly God has put this together. i decided last week to do classes. now i am about to be enrolled and in class. wow - head is still spinning.

emily - my advisor - is at present working on a course of study plan for me. i will sign it and then be officially enrolled to get my associate of applied science in early childhood education. from there i plan to get into the licensure process and schooling necessary for working with children rescued from the sex slave industry. wow - this world is so corrupt.